The Two Types of Discomfort:  Which one do you Allow?

The Two Types of Discomfort: Which one do you Allow?

Reaching your goals and living the life you desire requires you to change and evolve.  

This is uncomfortable. 

It’s critical you know the difference between:

The discomfort of going into the unknown

and

The discomfort of staying the same.

So many of us think that the discomfort of spinning, feeling overwhelmed, over working and neglecting our self care is the discomfort that we need to reach our goals.

This is suffering.

It’s very different from the discomfort of doing something new, putting yourself out into the world, taking risks while deliberately tending to your self care and the other commitments you have.

This is thriving.

You can reach your goals doing either one - 

But one of them will create a life of pleasure and reward, while the other will create a life of misery and scarcity.

So how do you know the difference?

You’ll need to build awareness around your discomfort.

Let’s clear something up, first.

You are supposed to be uncomfortable.

Did you know this?

So many of us think that something has gone wrong if we’re uncomfortable.

But it’s simply part of the human experience.

It’s going to be difficult about half of the time.

It’s certainly going to be difficult as you’re stretching and growing toward your goals.

Remember, our brains are wired to keep us safe.

This means that every time we do something new, our brains will go about compiling evidence for why we shouldn’t do it.

Because we may fail.

And failing could mean separation from the group.

Failing could mean death, right?

Wrong.

Unfortunately our brains haven’t evolved past these primitive neurological functions.

But that’s ok.

Now that you expect discomfort

You can manage it and do your big ass work anyways.

Here is a process I use to determine if the discomfort I feel is useful

1. Describe your discomfort:

Write it down. 

Get into the feeling of it in your body. 

Describe it using color, sound, shape and density.


Where is it located?

Why is it here?

What are you thinking about?

What do you make those thoughts mean?

Get to the root of it and tease out your most pervasive thought.

This thought is what is causing your discomfort.

What are you having this thought about?

What is going on in your life now?

2. How does this discomfort allow you to grow?

What growth is available to you here? 

What are you invited to work through?

How will this experience broaden your capacity to manage discomfort and evolve? 

3. How does this discomfort keep you small?

Is this discomfort pretending to be important?

If you took actions on this discomfort what would you do?

How would these actions serve you? 


This process may bring up a lot about the belief systems you have around work, success and productivity.

Good.

You‘ll need to evaluate these to become the successful person you want to be.



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